There is sufficient evidence in nature to prove that God exists (Psa. 19:1; Rom. 1:20). However, whereas nature testifies to the fact that God is, only the Bible reveals Who He is. We are completely dependent upon the Scriptures for any knowledge of “the things of God” (1 Cor. 2:7-16).
Evolutionists have a hard time explaining any number of things, and one of the most difficult things for them to explain is the origin of the home. Which evolved first, the male or the female? When did the first male and the first female come together to produce offspring? When was the first home established? Why was it established? Or was it pure happenstance that the home was brought into being? How did the first parents know what to teach their children? What moral code did they live by? If the first home did not live by a moral code, then when was such a moral code developed?
On and on we could go with questions of a similar nature. However, we need not waste our time waiting on the evolutionist to offer his speculations on such questions. We need look no further than the Scriptures to determine the origin and purpose of the home. All things that pertain to life and godliness, including life in the home, are addressed in Holy Writ (2 Pet. 1:3). Hence, in this series of articles let us investigate the following areas (1) The Formation of the Home; (2) The Formula For The Home and (3) The Future Home.
THE FORMATION OF THE HOME
The very first earthly home was established on the sixth day of creation, when God “caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man” (Gen. 2:21-22). Adam was very pleased with the bride God provided for him, and Moses declared a pattern for the establishment of homes in the future: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). Thousands of years later Jesus quoted and affirmed this very statement from Moses: “Have ye not read that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause shall a man leave father (Mat. 19:5). Accordingly, a home is formed when a Scripturally eligible man is joined together by God to a Scripturally eligible woman. The Supreme Court can say what they will, but we still have a record of God’s will: a home is not formed when two men (or women) “get married.”
THE FORMULA FOR THE HOME
It is not enough to know that God formed the home. We need also to discover the formula God has provided for the home’s success. There are countless volumes on the shelves of any religious bookstore about the home, and some of them contain good material. Nevertheless, if every one of these books vanished from the face of the earth by this time tomorrow, then we would not be without a compass for the home.
As long as mankind possesses a copy of the Scriptures, then he will be able to discover God’s formation of the home, and the formula for its success! In fact, any good material about the home, in books written by uninspired men, is good only because it has its basis in the teaching of Holy Scripture. The Bible contains sufficient information for husbands and wives to know their responsibilities. Furthermore, fathers and mothers, and sons and daughters, may learn from the Scriptures exactly what to do—and what not to do. Let us briefly explore the teaching of the Scriptures pertaining to these areas.
Husbands And Wives
There is no mystery to the student of God’s Word regarding the formula husbands and wives should follow in order to have a good home. In the first place, husband and wives must recognize the permanency of the home. They must understand that what God has joined together man is not to put asunder (Mat. 19:6). God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16). From the beginning God never intended for a man to put away his wife, or vice versa (Mat. 19:8). The general rule is that “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery” (Luke 16:18). The only Christ-authorized exception to this rule is if an innocent party puts away their mate for fornication (Mat. 19:9). For two people who are Scripturally married, death is the only thing that can Scripturally dissolve their marriage bond other than fornication (Rom. 7:1-4).
In the second place, husbands and wives must recognize the personal responsibilities God gave each of them in the home. Paul’s inspired pen told wives:
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing (Eph. 5:22-24).
The submission required of wives has nothing to do with their worth or any degree of inferiority. Jesus was subordinate to the will of His Father, but was no less Divine than the Father. The wife is to be in submission to her husband, but this is only because of the chain of authority revealed in the all-sufficient Scriptures (1 Cor. 11:3; 1 Tim. 2:13-15). Peter further instructed wives to live in such a way that their manner of life might influence their unbelieving husbands to learn the gospel and obey it (1 Pet. 3:1-2). In order to accomplish this, a wife must give more attention to the development of her inner beauty than to her outward appearance (3:3-4).
Although some women are bent on dominating their relationships, the truth is that most women would have no trouble whatsoever in submitting to their husbands if their husbands would treat them as Paul directed. In his epistle to the Colossians, Paul ordered husbands: “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them” (Col. 3:18). His correspondence to the Ephesians give even more detailed instructions:
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband (Eph. 5:25-32).
If a husband truly loves his wife then he will imitate the self-sacrificial spirit of Christ; he will put the needs of his wife before his own wants. He will love his wife with the same degree of care and tenderness with which he takes care of his own personal body; he will nourish and cherish her. He will love her even as he loves himself. Furthermore, he will dwell with her according to knowledge, “giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life” (1 Pet. 3:7). By so doing his prayers will be that much more effective before the throne of God (3:7).
It should be noted that no marriage has ever failed because a husband was following the aforementioned formula. Likewise, no marriage has ever failed because a wife followed the Divine pattern given in the all-sufficient Scriptures. No marriage has ever failed because a husband/wife were committed to loving each other with the type of love described in 1 Corinthians 13:1-7. Only when husbands and wives depart from God’s inspired formula do troubles arise in marriage.
(To be continued next week.)
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